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Optimize for how you feel

To manifest the ideal relationship, first list all the qualities that you desire in a person.  Next, burn that list and make a new list of how you want to feel in that relationship.

The cash value of all human connections lies in how both parties feel.  Your actual experience (not someone else’s attributes) dictates the positive mental states that you care about.  You want to FEEL loved, safe, sexy, beautiful, significant, supported, understood, trusted…

The moral? Don’t ask yourself what you want.  Ask how you want to feel when you get it.

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