Self first is not selfish

The “put your own oxygen mask on before assisting others” airplane instruction is a strong example of how we can best be of service to others.  The analogy applies to unrelated and non-urgent scenarios.

Sick, sleep-deprived moms won’t be their best selves.  “Selfless” people who donate all their money are promptly in a position where they can no longer help anyone.

Drowning people make lousy lifeguards.

Caring for your own well-being is a prerequisite for being useful to those around us.