The truth about drama

I’ve never met anyone who confessed to loving drama or dramatic situations.  Yet it seems to surround some people.  For those who are and care to remain truly drama-free, the occasion to even hear the word “drama” – let alone be exposed to it – is rare.

If you find yourself constantly surrounded by drama at every turn…it’s possible that you are the source.  And if that’s true, you can change it.

Three ways to stop taking things personally

One of the Four Agreements (all of which are life-changing if you implement them) is “Don’t take anything personally”.  Here are a few tips that may help with that:

1) Know that most uncivil behavior is a reflection of others’ issues and not you 2) If it’s even possible that something hurtful could have been unintentional or meant to be helpfully constructive, learn to apply the most charitable interpretation 3) Even if a charitable reading is wrong and it IS personal, remember that your character and self-worth are not defined by your mistakes or others’ views

Character over reputation

Perhaps character could be described as our reputation with ourselves.  In that sense, we can strive to be the kinds of people that we ourselves hold in high regard, improving our internal character/reputation/image.

Let’s not pretend that it doesn’t matter what others think about us.  Of course it matters.  Yet it’s still possible to prioritize character over reputation.  In the end, both your character and your self-worth is determined by you, not what others might say about you.